Ralph Waldo Emerson is attributed for saying, “it’s not the destination, it’s the journey.” I think of this often when it comes to regattas. Sure, there are the nail-biting moments of the races, the competition, and the camaraderie among fellow sailors.
But for this dad, the road to a regatta is not just a physical journey; it’s an opportunity for quality bonding and conversation.
The early starts, as we load up the minivan with gear and snacks, mark the beginning of an adventure. It’s in these moments, where we share a common sense of anticipation that our fond memories begin.
We start by discussing the day’s plans and it quickly becomes an opportunity for me to listen, to understand his thoughts and to offer support and encouragement.
Our humble minivan becomes a mobile sanctuary where conversations unfold. Uninterrupted hours provide a rare chance to delve into deeper topics that might not come up during the usual day-to-day rush. We talk about music, school, and friends but also about the bigger questions in life—dreams for the future, what drives him, and how he deals with challenges. These dialogues help us build a stronger, more open relationship.
Driving to regattas also allows us to create shared memories that we’ll cherish for years. The little things, like stopping for breakfast at a 7-11 or discussing how bad our hotel was, become part of our unique bond. These shared experiences are the stories we’ll reminisce about long after the regatta is over.
On these drives, I get to share my knowledge and experiences. I provide insights and advice that might help him in life. Conversely, I learn from him—his perspectives, his resilience, and his determination. This mutual exchange is enriching and helps both of us grow.
In our busy lives, finding uninterrupted time to spend with our children can be challenging. The drive to a regatta offers a precious window of presence, where the only focus is on each other and the journey ahead. Without the distractions of work, screens, or daily chores, we can connect on a deeper level. This presence is a gift, providing the emotional nourishment that strengthens our bond.